Consider what’s happening to Haverstraw’s Hannah Sadak and then spin the clock forward about 20 years, to a day when millions of Baby Boomers are in their mid-80s to early 90s and can no longer hack it living on their own.
Sadak’s drama — and her family’s — may be played out thousands of time a day unless government and public policy awaken to the needs of an aging population.
Fortunately, I was able to keep my dad at home, living with my children and I, until the day he died at 88.
But suppose I didn’t own a home and have room. Suppose he had had to stay in his Bronx apartment. Suppose we didn’t have the money for around-the-clock care. He wanted no part of nursing homes, but there may have been no option.
Except, perhaps, for one Sadak’s family has employed— having a family member, in this case a 28-year-old grandson, spend nights at her apartment.
It might have been possible for one of my adult children to put off starting their career long enough to help take care of pop. It would have been a considerable sacrifice, but it’s what many people do for loved ones.
In our case, pop was with us and we all shared the load during the time when his part-time aide wasn’t on duty.
But suppose we did that at pop’s apartment, and suppose he lived in an all-senior environment, bound either by management choice or federal regulation, as the Sadak family seems to have been told.
It’s a scenario that deeply concerned Martin Bernstein, who in his last years worked to maximize use of the county’s adult home. His belief was that, as Boomers age, the need would only get greater for supportive, government-operated housing situations that, unlike private assisted living developments, doesn’t charge $3,000 to $4,000 or more a month.
In that respect, Bernstein, who made his living in real estate and devoted his spare time to watching over his beloved Clarkstown, was a visionary.
On its face, it seems the Sadak family — her daughter and grandson — were doing the right thing and going about it in the right way, alerting management to the problem and their proposed solution of having a family member stay with Sadak overnight while she recovers from a broken leg and strokes.
And it seem now that management at the Warren Knolls Apartments may be seeing the light.
But the time is going to come when handling this on a case by case basis isn’t going to work.
There may be millions of families facing the same issue — providing family-driven care in an elderly individual’s home when paid caregivers or high-priced facilities are out of their reach or don’t fit their needs.
As a society, we’re going to need to meet that need with facilities and with rules that flex enough to withstand the strain of old age, illness and limited income.
We owe that to a generation that will live longer than any before it.